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Everyday life with an au pair

Experiences, figures and routes — written by families and our team.

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The first weeks with the au pair
Tiredness, homesickness, little initiative: what is normal while an au pair settles in, what helps – and why development matters more than week one.6 min read22 August 2026
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Who sets boundaries for the child: the au pair or the parents?
An au pair may set boundaries in everyday life – the responsibility for raising the child stays with the parents. What this means in practice and how you can give your au pair backing.6 min read22 August 2026
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Preparing your au pair for your child
What an au pair should know before arrival about your child, your daily routine and your region – and why the real getting-to-know-each-other only begins after arrival.4 min read22 August 2026
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An au pair is moving in: how do I prepare my child?
How to prepare your children for the new au pair: from the first photos through cultural differences to the time a new relationship needs.5 min read22 August 2026
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An emergency plan for your au pair: on the fridge door
Address, phone numbers, the child's particular needs: what an au pair needs to know in an emergency, and how to go through the emergency plan together.4 min read22 August 2026
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May an au pair give medication?
Care and support, yes; nursing, no: which tasks an au pair can take on with a child with a disability, and where the boundary to medical activities lies.5 min read22 August 2026
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Clarifying expectations with your au pair
Punctuality, mobile phones, meals, visitors, media rules: which family rules you should discuss with your au pair during your first week together.6 min read22 August 2026
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When the politeness fades
Guests become housemates – a good sign. Why appreciation, clear agreements and respect should still be felt every day.6 min read08 August 2026
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Resolving conflicts with your au pair calmly and fairly
Don't let things build up, raise them early, stay specific: how host families clear up misunderstandings with their au pair before they turn into a big conflict.7 min read04 August 2026
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Inducting your au pair like a new apprentice
Your family's daily routine is second nature to you – not to your au pair. Why induction takes time at the start and helps every day afterwards.6 min read03 August 2026
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When the au pair sends pocket money home
Why many au pairs transfer part of their pocket money home — and why host families should not judge this decision too quickly.5 min read28 July 2026
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My child is ignoring the au pair
The child wants only Mum, and the au pair stands to one side. Why this is not rejection, and how a relationship can grow step by step.7 min read21 July 2026

Everyday life with an au pair

The first weeks with the au pair

Who sets boundaries for the child: the au pair or the parents?

Preparing your au pair for your child

An au pair is moving in: how do I prepare my child?

An emergency plan for your au pair: on the fridge door

May an au pair give medication?

Clarifying expectations with your au pair

When the politeness fades

Resolving conflicts with your au pair calmly and fairly

Inducting your au pair like a new apprentice

When the au pair sends pocket money home

My child is ignoring the au pair